Wedding Calligraphy Etiquette Tips from a Professional Calligrapher
When it comes to wedding stationery, etiquette isn’t about stiff rules—it’s about hospitality. The way you address an envelope or display a place card sets the tone for your celebration and tells your guests: you matter.
As your calligrapher, I make it easy to blend tradition, personalization, and clarity so you can focus on what really matters: a celebration that feels like you.
A Brief History of Calligraphy Etiquette
Etiquette around invitations and addressing has centuries of tradition behind it—rooted in respect, refinement, and that extra layer of care that makes formal events feel meaningful.
Including titles like “Dr.,” “Reverend,” or military designations isn’t just formality for formality’s sake—it’s a small act of recognition. Whether you’re hosting a black-tie gala or a garden ceremony, these details elevate the moment.
TL;DR: Calligraphy etiquette = emotional intelligence, in ink.
Common Wedding Calligraphy Questions
1. How Do I Address Married Couples?
Traditional format: “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith”
Modern format: “Jane and John Smith”
Both are correct—it just depends on your tone. Many of my couples choose a more inclusive, title-free version for a warmer, updated vibe.
2. What About LGBTQ+ Couples?
Inclusivity always wins.
List names in the couple’s preferred order (or alphabetically)
Use traditional titles if the guest prefers (Ms., Dr., Mx.), or leave them off entirely
When in doubt, ask—it shows care and respect
3. Do I Really Need Inner Envelopes?
Not necessarily—but they add beauty and clarity.
Outer envelope: formal full names
Inner envelope: short version + names of invited children
Bonus: They protect embellishments and keep things looking crisp
Etiquette Beyond the Envelope: Day-Of Details
Your guest experience doesn’t stop at the mailbox.
Escort cards, place cards, menus, and seating charts are where function meets formality—and where calligraphy turns utility into magic.
Escort card = table assignment
Place card = seat assignment
Whichever you choose, the goal is the same: make people feel seen and supported.
Photo Credit: Sarah Shank Photo
Yes, You Can Break the Rules (With Intention)
Etiquette is a starting point—not a mandate.
Want to use lowercase addresses for a chic editorial look?
Nicknames on place cards?
Bold color pairings or nontraditional formats?
Do it. I’ll help you make it feel elevated, not random.
Why Work with a Calligrapher?
Let’s be honest—navigating etiquette, addressing rules, and design details can get overwhelming fast. When you work with a professional calligrapher (hi, that’s me), you get:
✓ Personal guidance on addressing and inclusivity
✓ A smooth, collaborative process that’s actually fun
✓ Access to my exclusive etiquette cheat sheet (no more Googling “what title do I use for my aunt and her wife?”)
✓ Custom details that feel like you
Let’s Create Something Beautiful
Whether you need full invitation suites or day-of details like place cards and signage, I’m here to make the process seamless—and stylish.
Inquire here and let’s design wedding paper that feels intentional, polished, and unforgettable. 🥂